Lessons From Brokenness
by Dr. Mark Byrd
Published on June 13, 2024

Lessons from Brokenness

More than a few people have felt the sting of betrayal and a broken heart.  I suppose most of us can relate to their first love breaking their heart.  Yes, even the best of friends may betray us. Family will definitely disappoint us. Co-workers can and likely will slack in their duties which can negatively affect us.

What do you do when someone you love and respect breaks your heart? Do you walk away from the relationship?  Do you harbor bitterness in your heart?  Do you give them the cold-shoulder? How about writing a negative rant about the person and post it on every social media venue known to man?  All of those are options – not very good ones, but options none the less.

Consider the following suggestions the next time you experience a broken heart:

Remember that God is bigger than any hurt you experience. Psalm 55:22 reminds us: “Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous fall.”  God spoke the world into existence out of nothing; He is waiting and willing to handle our hurts and hang ups!

Getting healthy and moving on always involves forgivingPaul said in Ephesians 4: 32: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as I Christ God forgave you.”  Someone once said: “The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest, and the first to forget is the happiest.”  Try it and see if this is true – I have personally experienced this quote to be spot on correct!

Need motivation? If we withhold forgiveness, God will not forgive us!  That sounds cut and dry.
Let’s consult scripture to be sure. Matthew 6: 14-15 says:  “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your father will not forgive your sins.”  By the way, Jesus said that.

Remember, we should extend the same forgiveness and mercy we desire others to give us.
Luke 6: 36 & 38 remind us:  “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful … For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”  Words to live by, no doubt.

C.S.Lewis said:  “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.”

Try these suggestions the next time you experience heart break in a relationship.  Mother Teresa was right when she said, “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.”

Mark and his family reside in Madison, MS. He is married to the former Mary Kraft of McComb, and they have two daughters, Mark has served churches in Mississippi for over 25 years. He received degrees from the University of Southern Mississippi and New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. His greatest passion is preaching, teaching, and discipleship. Mark enjoys attending sporting events, participating in community events, and spending time with his family. Mark, Mary live in Madison, MS with their two daughters, Anna Kris and Allie. loves serving with the First Ridgeland family.

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1 Comment

  1. Robert Arthur Marzullo

    All of these are so true Mark. To be open to forgiveness AND forgiving those who have wounded us is a MAJOR step to confrontong and healing from the hurt.But it is not easy.


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